"Is my boss in love with me?" - How you as an employee recognize the signs

"Is my boss in love with me?" - How you as an employee recognize the signs

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As an employee, you ask yourself, "Is my boss in love with me?". You have the impression that he or she is. But you're not quite sure. Your own feelings for this man are more than a crush. Is he equally attracted to you? You have a hard time judging him because his body language is not always very clear. He acts reserved. Read on to learn 8 signs you can tell if he's into you: 

Is your boss in love with you as an employee?

Women often find it difficult to correctly assess a man's affection. Falling in love at work, on the job, and then perhaps even with your boss, presents you with special challenges. The first is to recognize and correctly interpret whether your boss is as attracted to you as you are to him. Below you will learn 11 signs that will make it easier for you to find out how he feels about you, maybe even in love with you. Many tips on how to read and interpret the other person's feelings correctly are given in the book "Gefühle lesen" by Paul Ekman.

"Is my boss in love with me?" - How you as an employee recognize the signs

1st sign: 
Your boss favors you over colleagues

A clear sign that your boss is in love with you as an employee you can recognize by his preference towards you. You have more rights and freedoms compared to your colleagues. He prefers to communicate with you than with the other team members. What could this be due to? Do you notice certain differences in how he deals with you and the others? Is he particularly friendly and courteous towards you, perhaps even a little nervous? This could be a clear sign of his special sympathy.

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2nd sign: 
Your boss discusses even small things with you in private

Meanwhile, as an employee of his company, your boss invites you to business meetings on a daily basis, sometimes only to discuss trivial matters. He could have announced this briefly with a phone call or an email. Obviously, he likes to be in direct contact with you. He finds you congenial and likes your presence. Maybe he is even in love with you.

3rd sign:
Your boss values your personal opinion

"How do you like our new website?" and "What do you think of our new product line?" are examples of questions he asks you personally. He values your opinion and view in business matters. He shows you respect and sympathy. He probably often asks you trivial questions just to be near you.

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4th sign:
Your boss often looks directly at you in team meetings

Does your supervisor keep looking directly at you in business meetings? This could be an indication that he is attracted to you as his employee. Perhaps he has special feelings for you and finds you very likeable. 

5th sign:
Your boss wants to impress you

You can tell whether your boss is in love with you by his styling, among other things. Does he now attach particular importance to his appearance at business meetings with you? Does he suddenly wear very dapper clothes to the meeting, with which he wants to be well received by you? Do you notice a new, pleasant scent on him that he wants to use to score points with you? If your superior generally appears very well-groomed and well-styled in the office, this does not have to have any particular significance for you in terms of sympathy. If, however, he has only recently started to attach importance to this, it could be an indication that he has fallen in love with you.

6th sign:
He likes to get up close and personal with you

Making physical contact with a female employee is a difficult topic in the workplace. As a rule, a boss behaves very cautiously here. No one should accuse him of sexual harassment. But maybe the two of you have already become a little closer at work. And now your boss likes to get close to you again and again. He often visits you personally to discuss official matters. And while doing so, he may touch you on the shoulder as if by chance. He obviously feels physically attracted to you and is in love with you.

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7. signs:
Your boss responds to your flirting attempts or flirts with you himself

Among the most famous flirting attempts are deep and long-lasting looks into the eyes of the flirting partner as well as nice compliments about your appearance. Does he give you this kind of special attention? This is a sign that your boss is in love with you. However, keep a cool head on the job and focus on your work as an employee so that you don't get criticized. 

Did you try to flirt with your supervisor? Did he go for it? Then he likes you or simply enjoys flirting and finds it entertaining. However, please do not overdo it and refrain from your own flirting attempts when other colleagues are present. Too quickly you could become the subject of gossip among colleagues. 

It is better if you meet privately on neutral ground with your admirer. Then you are not under observation and can find out quite relaxed what you feel for each other. If your boss is in love with you, you can tell when he can openly show his feelings outside the office. A pub or restaurant where you drink a beer together is particularly suitable for this. 

8th sign:
Your boss is privately interested in you and your interests

Your boss is interested in you as a private person? And he wants to know what you like to do in your spare time. His interest in you goes beyond business. To some extent, this is not noticeable. But if he asks for details, even wants to know more about your relationship status, then he may have fallen in love with you. He appreciates you not only as a dedicated employee. 

9th sign:
Your boss invites you to lunch 

This could also be an indication that your boss has taken a special liking to you. He would like to meet with you outside of business hours. Perhaps he invites you to dinner or for a drink after work. You can tell directly from this behavior that he finds you very likeable, perhaps has even fallen in love with you. He even wants to spend his free time with you.


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